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"When are you speaking to Haim?" a message arrives. "My request was to ask if I can join as their extra sister."

There is only a single issue: I also wants to be the Haims' additional sibling. And we're in plentiful company. Several famous fans have also begged for the position.

It's clear an irresistible appeal is happening. The siblings Este, Danielle and Alana started their path playing gigs at small eateries with their parents. Now they're multi-time Grammy hopefuls.

In the tradition of the greatest groups, they're a inseparable trio. Their music videos frequently show them walking in harmony down the roads of Los Angeles. In concert, they play with such pure joy you inevitably think, "I'd love to be part of that, too."

"The numerous instances on tour that young girls told us and said, 'Seeing you perform, I picked up a bass'," remarks Alana, the youngest of the trio. "It is the biggest honor. That's an award in itself. We've done our job if we can inspire people to form a group."

"And thus everyone gets an invitation to be the fourth member of Haim."

Grammy Nod

The group have called into their homes, where they're taking a pause after an major tour in support of their latest album, I Quit.

They're right now reeling from the news it's been nominated for best rock album at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the very first all-female band ever in contention for the award.

"I tune into the announcements every year, so it kind of feels like a surreal movie when your name is announced," says Alana. "I immediately called my sisters to say, 'Did I hear this right or am I imagining things'?"

The significance of the accolade isn't lost on the trio.

"We truly set out to make a rock record this time, so it's a significant achievement," continues Alana. "But we're just thankful for the female artists that paved the way."

Personal Turmoil and Candor

The project came out of a phase of emotional upheaval. All three sisters were single, and the music explores that strange liminal space where you're happy to be free, but not yet ready to move on.

The themes detail endings and farewells. The sisters desire love, but not the kind of love they've had. You can hear them figuring out in real life who they are becoming.

"I love way of putting it, yes," says Danielle. "I Quit is like a slogan. You have to actively work on shutting out the noise and saying, 'It doesn't matter to me what people think'."

Refinement of Style

That newfound resilience demanded a fresh approach – more unpolished and immediate than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who helped produce the album, that began with the percussion.

"Percussion is such a nuanced thing, and I am so passionate about it," she says.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the title of our memoir," quips Alana. "I always say, our albums cannot begin until we find the right drum sound."

Experiences and Shared Laughter

The band's candor inspired the album's rollout, where the sisters shared some of their dating misadventures.

A former partner left Este over a health concern. Alana recalled a story of travelling to celebrate New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a casual gesture at midnight.

"During these heartbreaks, you just feel like there's no hope," notes Alana. "Thus to be able to find humor in those stories and have them tell you more outrageous stories, it's incredible."

A Secure Legacy

It's not difficult sense a shift in the band. These days, Haim are more assured of their standing in the rock pantheon.

They're major draws, with successful albums and an international audience.

But the sister act will forever be their top focus.

"Me and my siblings have been making music since I was a young child," concludes Alana. "It feels as if no alternative that we were destined for. And I'm really thankful we've gotten here and we're still kicking."